Stop, collaborate and listen

Can we apply that advice in our homes?

As the famous rapper Vanilla Ice once said, “Stop, collaborate and listen.” While he was talking about a completely different topic, his words can be applied to family communication as well.

When it comes to working through issues within a family, it’s important to remember that everyone needs to stop, collaborate, and listen. Let’s break down what this means and how it can benefit your family.


The first step in resolving any conflict is to stop. This means taking a step back from the situation and taking a moment to breathe. When emotions are running high, it can be difficult to think clearly and rationally. By taking a break and allowing everyone to calm down, you can approach the issue with a clearer mind.


Collaboration is key in any relationship, but especially in a family. It’s important to work together to find a solution that works for everyone involved. This means listening to each other’s perspectives and ideas, and being willing to compromise. When everyone feels heard and valued, it’s easier to come to an agreement that everyone can be happy with.


Perhaps the most important aspect of family therapy is listening. Everyone in the family needs to feel like they are being heard and understood. This means actively listening to each other’s concerns and validating their feelings. When we feel like we are being heard, we are more likely to be open to working through the issue.

When you stop, collaborate, and listen, you can create a safe and supportive environment for your family to work through any issues that arise. Remember, it’s okay to seek help from a professional if you need it. A family therapist can provide the guidance and support you need to navigate even the toughest of situations.

By working together and valuing each other’s opinions and feelings, you can create a strong and supportive family unit that can weather any storm.